Rabbi Avigdor Miller's yahrzeit (27 Nissan) Wed. night
Q: What should a person do if he feels like he’s going through a lot of difficulties raising his children?
A: If a person is bringing up children בדרך התורה, only that it turns out that it’s a difficult job to do, he should know that his reward is tremendous. The Gemara says that if a person has צער גידול בנים, if he has difficulties in raising his children, then אינו רואה פתחה של גהינים – “he won’t even have to walk past the door of Gehenim.” So when you pass out of this world, you will go straight to Olam Habah.
The mitzvah of גידול בנים, raising up children, is one of the biggest mitzvos of the Torah! You know what it means to make Jews?! You suffer from them. But the more you suffer, the greater is the reward. Now, if you have a good boy or a good girl, and they caused you no suffering because they themselves chose to do good all the time, you’ll still get reward. But not a reward like that one who suffers. צער גידול בנים makes you a wealthy person. You should know that the reward in Gan Eden is to sit on a golden throne just because you suffered in this great cause of raising up children for the service of Hashem. Because that’s the true success of a Jew in this world, to raise up a family that will serve Hashem and remain after him forever and ever.
Tape # E-218 (January 2000)
Avigdor ben Yisroel HaCohen
Please learn a Mishnah for his neshamah. Here's one:
(1) From which time are we to recite
the shema in the evening? From the
time when the priests return home [i.e.,
priests who have become impure and
have immersed themselves in a
mikvah, must wait until the stars have
appeared in order to be considered, once again, ritually pure, enabling them to
return home] to partake of the terumah [i.e., the priestly dues and one may recite
the shema] up until the end of the first watch [the night is divided into three
shifts, referred to by the Mishnah as “watches;” (during each watch different
groups of Angels sing shirah — praise to God, Rashi 3a) thus the conclusion of
the first watch would be the end of the first third of the night]. This is the opinion
of Rabbi Eliezer, but the Sages say, [One may recite the shema] until midnight.
Rabban Gamliel says, Until dawn [since it states “and speak of them ... when you
lie down” (Deuteronomy 6:7) the intent being all night]. It once occurred that his sons returned [late] from a feast and
said to him, “We have not yet recited
the shema.” He told them, “If dawn
has not yet broken it is your duty to
recite it [even according to the view of
the Sages].” And not only in this case,
but in all cases [of obligations] where
the Sages say, “Until midnight,” the
obligation referred to may be carried
out until dawn; [for instance,] the
burning of fat and limbs may be
performed until dawn, and all [the
sacrifices] which must be eaten on the
same day have their deadlines until dawn. If this is so, why then did the Sages
say, “Until midnight?” In order to prevent a person from transgressing [since he
may procrastinate in the fulfillment of his obligation, which may cause him to miss its deadline.